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A new way to look at your children
By Wendy Simons

Have you ever considered your children to be young people who are already somebody special in that they are whole and complete? In other words, do you look at your child as somebody who will need years and years of growing to do before they are "complete" people, both mentally and physically, or do you see them as perfect beings just the way they are?

This is a very unique subject with parents who want to do everything right when raising their children. Most of us who have kids have never thought about the ideas that you are about to read in today's article. You see, children are confronted with a unique set of expectations that is visited on them by the adult world. They are constantly being bombarded with the question "What is it that you are going to be when you grow up?" and when this question is asked we are basically telling our children that "You are not yet complete or whole as a human being".

What would happen if you asked your child that question and he answered with "I am not going to be anything Daddy, because I already am something!" Most parents would feel that this answer is disrespectful and viewed as insolent. But we often forget that all people are active, fully participating members of our society for their entire lives, including the period that we choose to label as "childhood".

People that are young, our children, are equally as significant as adults are and need to be viewed as such. Regardless of their age, kids are vitally significant rather than existing as a "period of preparation" for life. In other words, your children are not getting ready for life in any way, but are in fact living it each and every day.

If you are still not connecting with this concept yet because it may be a radical departure for you, then that is ok. It just takes an open mind and a willingness to break away from the way you have been taught to view your children as. Right now your line of thinking is probably: Children are little and you are big. Children do not know much and you know a lot. Therefore, they must be taught to be like you, right? And up to this point you have probably interpreted your job as a parent as one in which you must gradually shape little helpless people into fully functioning adults.

But there is an entirely new way to look at these little people that are in our lives. And the fact is that they are "whole and complete" now! Our children are not striving, they have indeed arrived. Like you, they are pure and total. And like you are changing each and every day, so are they. Of course our children are making drastic changes day by day, in both their bodies and their minds, but it is no different than the changes that are taking place within us as adults each day we are alive. This attitude that children are somehow incomplete must be rethought if you are going to have children close to you that will live their lives with no limits and with the confidence to reach for the stars in everything they do.

Author Details:
Wendy Simons, writes for a number of sites about health, beauty and cosmetic surgery, she also makes contributions to the A-Z of.com.

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