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Doing away with the "good child"
By Wendy Simons
How may times have you told your child that you wish he would be a "good boy" today, or "if you could only be 'good' like your sister..." or perhaps even "Thank you for being a good girl while I was away"
These phrases seem innocent enough, and perhaps they are, but as a conscience parent to your children you may want to consider that placing too much emphasis on children being consistently "good" has a few potential dangers.
For example, it is easy for young children to create the belief that they will only be worthwhile when they are being "good". By being consistently told over and over again that they are accepted when good, then of course if they make a mistake then their minds will immediately think that they are not worthy.
Below are 3 suggestions to help:
1. Notice the progress and efforts of your children instead of results.
2. Do not compare your children to other "good" children. For example, never say "I wish you could be good like that little boy over there".
3. Stop saying "Good girl" or "Good boy". Rather, be specific in what you notice about your child at that time.
Author Details:
Wendy Simons, writes for a number of sites about health, beauty and cosmetic surgery, she also makes contributions to the A-Z of.com.
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